Month: April 2017

106. Open-mindedness and Understanding

Recently I've read a slew of blog posts about people encouraging open-mindedness when it comes to kink-related topics because of the ongoing trend of closed-mindedness that frequently plagues BDSM communities.  This post isn't targeted at any one of those bloggers, mostly just some thoughts in general that have been inspired by thinking about this topic. … Continue reading 106. Open-mindedness and Understanding

105. More adventures in chastity: Holy Trainer V2

105. More adventures in chastity: Holy Trainer V2

Wow, it's been a long time since I wrote anything of a chastity device review (January 2012). This past week I was able to get a good deal on a (legit) Holy Trainer v2 chastity device.  Nearly everything I had read about this device has been positive with a handful of gripes about security, which … Continue reading 105. More adventures in chastity: Holy Trainer V2

104. D/s vs. Codependency

There are times when I wonder if I'm actually codependent.  If you do a search for codependent or codependency it will spit out a great number of results that paint this as an emotional disorder.  Here are a few examples I copied/pasted from the search results: "Codependency is characterized by a person belonging to a … Continue reading 104. D/s vs. Codependency

103. Thoughts on Balancing Self

I've written a lot about control over the past few weeks.  It's strange when I delve too deeply into this topic because my mind tends to linger in the deepest parts of my submission... which is very much unlike what a sustainable lifestyle dynamic frequently functions as. My subspace seems to always want to pull … Continue reading 103. Thoughts on Balancing Self

102. Click 2017 Part 2

I got asked privately to elaborate a bit more on what goes on internally when it comes to what I talked about in the post Revisiting Click. Basically, I believe that the differences between having a choice and no choice when it comes to obedience corresponds to different mental states and levels of subspace.  How … Continue reading 102. Click 2017 Part 2

101. Revisiting “Click”: 2017 Edition

Years ago I remember making a post about how the clicking shut of a lock triggered a good bit of meaning to me.  Back then I remember my thoughts on it were mostly that it made me feel safe, protected, and valued (e.g. you put a lock on an expensive bike).  This pertained to what … Continue reading 101. Revisiting “Click”: 2017 Edition

97. Any Chastity Device Input?

This post likely borders on the TMI side of things but unfortunately when it comes to chastity device questions that's sort of par for the course... Chastity is something that I've hoped to explore more of in the future.  The longest I've gone is about 4 days, not because of sexual control but due to … Continue reading 97. Any Chastity Device Input?