What are the most difficult aspects of having a sexuality that involves kink or BDSM for you personally?
Oh, this post is going to feel good 😛
1. Fear. My sexuality has gotten so screwed up that vanilla relationships are no longer possible. This means that if/when I am single, I face the uphill battle of kink-dating, which is sort of horrible when you are as deep as I am.
2. There are certain things I can’t do even if she wants me to. Want it doggie-style? Too bad because I can’t get it up unless I’m on bottom.
3. Worry of exposure. I don’t care if people know I’m “into kink.” Hell, I’m willing to tell a lot of people that I’m a submissive (it’s easier for them to grasp if I call it a sex slave). I don’t go into specifics unless it’s a general idea of an act. e.g. yes, I have spent a lot of time tied up. Yes, I spend a lot of time performing cunnilingus. However, there’s a constant worry that some of my freakier self will get outed at some point and that would be harmful to my life in a bad way. Probably. I consider this an irrational fear that is rooted in a rational concern.