312. Thoughts on Pegging (2018)

I’m a bit hesitant to only put a year to differentiate some of these posts as I’m sure I will visit them again and I know this isn’t the first time…

D brought up the idea of pegging in one of my comments.  SG also echoed the topic idea.  Here goes.

For those who aren’t familiar with pegging, pegging is the act of a woman with a strap-on having anal intercourse with a man.

I almost started this by saying that I have a love/hate relationship with pegging.  That would be a lie.  It’s more like, hate/tolerate.  For many men (myself included), the idea of having anything up your bottom makes your sphincter pucker and you want to curl up into the fetal position with your back to the wall. There are men that enjoy pegging as an intimate act.  They are able to enjoy the prostate stimulation, have an orgasm, like or love it.

Pegging is my worst nightmare.  If anything even touches my thighs near my hole, my pulse immediately skyrockets up to about 140bpm or more.  If anything touches the sphincter, I will be thrashing, sobbing, bawling, screaming, clawing, and fighting.  These are subconscious acts that I cannot control.  I don’t think I was abused in that way when I was younger, but who the hell knows.  I can’t deal with it.

Anyone who has seen my drawings or read fs01 is probably thinking, dude, you do a lot of stuff with pegging in it if you hate it that much.  Therein lies the catch.  In submission I chase the deepest submissive mental space possible.  I want to be immersed so deep that I can’t even see the daylight.  I relaxed my hard limit on anal play 7 years after entering the lifestyle.  Getting pegged pushed me to a whole new realm of subspace that I didn’t know existed.

Nothing else makes me feel as completely owned and totally helpless.  I just have to suck it up and endure.  Part of the helpless is probably closely tied to the bondage required to make it happen.  It needs to be full on chains and locks.  The method we found that worked involved a spreader bar between my ankles, my wrist chained to my ankles, my collar chained to the spreader bar, and a locking gag.  No safe word, no way to make it stop, and no way to free or defend myself.

I scream.  I cry.  I die inside.  My soul gets thoroughly crushed.  I want nothing more than to make it stop.  I want to be anywhere but there.

That is what does it for me.  It breaks me.  It breaks my will.  It asserts true inescapable dominance over me.  I am helpless and in turn, my mind surrenders.

When it is over, only my submissive self remains.  I love her.  I adore her.  I cherish her.  I will do anything for her.  I want to do anything for her… except that.

That is pegging to me.

What is pegging for her?

This gets a bit more complicated.  Pegging for many of the women that do it, do so because it is either a fetish or a Domspace trigger.  I can understand the rush and empowerment of taking a man from behind, whether he likes it or not.  I can understand how that would drive someone.  I think for the women who live for it, it tends to fall into the realm of a fetish.

Now, most pegging occurs with a standard dildo mounted on a harness.  There are a number of double-ended dildos out there, some designed to work with a harness while others do not require a harness.

feeldoe

These double-enders make infinitely more sense to me.  If the act of pegging gives her a full-on orgasm, I find the idea of it a lot more attractive.  I also think this type is easier to process for both men and women who do not have an interest in pegging.  (The type that I write about in my fiction is designed to make the user orgasm).

Overall, I think my own mental block makes pegging pretty much the most intense form of submission that I can experience.  I don’t know if doing it more will make that intensity fade, but I do know as of this time, it pushes me deeper than anything else can.  That really gives it a twisted place within me, knowing that I crave the byproduct of something that I despise experiencing.

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9 thoughts on “312. Thoughts on Pegging (2018)

  1. Hi Fur, thank you for posting:
    Lol, the first few paragraphs had me laughing so hard I had tears in my eyes. I hope I did not take it wrong.
    As usual thank you for your over the top knowledge on the topic matter.
    I own a standard dildo of nice size that attaches to a harness as you described. I do very much like the image of the one here, I can insert in me while I am inserted in him. I especially enjoy the fact that if at all possible I could have an orgasm while fucking him. That would be unbelievable Awesome
    Here where I live there are no adult toy stores so I did not even know they made such a thing. When you replied to my comment on a previous post I envisioned a double ended dong. I thought that would be difficult to ride him with one of those. But now I get it and I will see if I can order one from my favorite on line store, amazon prime.
    Thanks
    D

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    1. Thank you, D. I am glad that you found it amusing 🙂

      There are two basic designs out there. The most well-known is probably the Feeldoe, which is what I pictured. There is another style known as the Vixen Creations Nexus that is basically two dildos at different angles. Some of the designs are meant to be used without a harness (they often still work better with a harness). Others definitely require one.

      Those are the two basic styles out there, although there are modified versions of each of them that are often viewed as improvements.

      If you end up getting one, I’m hoping you will post a review on your blog 🙂

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  2. Lol

    “For many men (myself included), the idea of having anything up your bottom makes your sphincter pucker and you want to curl up into the fetal position with your back to the wall.” … that just makes me want to devour the helpless prey.

    This was a great post. 💗 pegging

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  3. Pegging is full of complex emotions and sensations. As much as I wanted to enjoy it, and as much as I was the one to urge my wife to take that next step (she already loved teasing me with her fingers), I still had a hard time with it. My mind kept coming up with excuses for why I shouldn’t be enjoying it, and my body listened.

    It took time, patience, and several different approaches. The biggest thing we’ve found is that we need to ease into it, with plenty of foreplay beforehand. What really works for me is her verbal encouragement, and what has turned it from something she indulges to something she enjoys is that exact same double-ended vibrating dildo you have a picture of. She hated the harness, and quickly got bored with no physical sensation, but sharing the experience has really transformed things, especially since I feel more comfortable submitting when I know that she’s taking pleasure from it.

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    1. Thank you, Sally. It is a rather complicated scenario for me as well. I know that relaxing and being gentle is a crucial part of it. I just have been unable to pull off my end of the “relaxing” part.

      Take care.

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