I have been writing a lot lately but I realize that I have been writing a lot more logical, rational, and emotionally-detached thoughts than much involving my personal feelings. While I feel pretty safe to say that I am clear of my depression that lasted way too long this year, I'm not feeling 100%. My … Continue reading 457. A Personal Update
Month: May 2018
It's difficult for me to see myself as desirable. I know that I have strengths. I am smart, compassionate, and have a big heart. I am romantic, empathetic, funny, and loyal. I am responsible and motivated, competent and decisive. As a sub, I am dedicated, loving, and willing and versatile enough to be whatever she … Continue reading 456. Thoughts on Awareness and Self-Image
In the past I have written about the differing psychological effects on submission of various methods of restraints. I have felt that chain can affect someone differently than say, rope or cloth. I have felt that steel and locks can affect someone differently than the "honor system," velcro, standard buckles, or snap hooks. I've never … Continue reading 455. Thoughts on views on locks, restraints, etc.
I was reading a journal entry on fetlife of a Domme friend about D/s dating and the tiresome aspect of being messaged by more subs than she cares to deal with. A sub left a comment with the idea that maybe there should to be a F/m dating site where anyone can make a profile, … Continue reading 454. Who sends the first message?
Have you ever noticed that popular portrayals of powerful women never seem to directly lead to an uptick in the number of Dommes? I find it oddly curious since portrayals of M/f scenarios often contribute heavily to interested in that side of D/s and BDSM, yet things don't seem to flow in the other direction. … Continue reading 453. Do you ever wonder why portrayals of powerful women…
There are times that I really envy the more supportive network of subs in the M/f side of things. I know that there are pockets within that community that can be cliquey and attempt to force conformity, but by and large, there is a lot of interaction between subs and in many cases, they are … Continue reading 452. It’s only true if a woman says it…
Note: As I was about 75% done with this post I realized that it had changed from what I had originally intended into something else. Someone might find this useful so I figured I would finish it and post it rather than scrap it. There is often a lot of flack about the expectations of … Continue reading 451. Some Things to Consider when contacting a Domme while seeking a LTR
The idea of strength or weakness in submission is one of the more polarizing topics out there as there is such a wide variety of views on what it means to be a submissive. The common views also tend to differ greatly between M/f and F/m and some views will frequently confuse the ideas of … Continue reading 450. Thoughts on Strength or Weakness in Submission
Today I made a realization as to why some people crave labels and why some people wish to absolutely deny and shed labels. The kinky world has 390483029849032 labels and it seems like a new one is created every day to denote some miniscule difference where a label fails. I like labels. My mind works … Continue reading 449. Thoughts on the Meaning of Labels
Added Note: I didn't really intend for this post to carry a negative tone but it sort of turned that way at the end as apparently my personal experiences have colored my thoughts more than I had anticipated. This was originally intended to be more observational analysis than anything else. If you go back in … Continue reading 448. Thoughts on Consent, FLR, and Alternate Forms of Femdom