491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now.  As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its …

490. Thoughts on Uniqueness and Conformity

Something that I have had to deal with a little bit in my local excursions into our groups here is the notion that many of my ideas and thoughts about D/s fall outside the norm.  Those who have followed me for a long time are probably used to the topics that I write about and …

489. Thoughts upon me, the submissive

The history of my life has been one where I have never felt desirable nor attractive.  I have always been different.  Different in such a way that the difference would be the characteristic that stood out the most.  Different was bad.  I would have to be twice as good to be considered half as good.  …

488. 5-Month Reflections upon my return to the local community

It was roughly 12 years ago that I left the local BDSM community due to the hateful drama, petty squabbles, and how that manifested itself in people's behaviors.  It was an experience that had born fruit, but had also soured and caused me to recoil deeply.  I didn't know who to trust.  It was easier …

487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean

Welcome to attempt #11 at finishing this post. I have been helping and mentoring some newer Dommes again and taking part in some local discussion groups and the topic of service has come up quite a bit.  Well, sort of.  Most of the time the topic revolves around service and how one party's definition of …

486. Thoughts on Emotional Masochism and Healing

When I have written about emotional masochism it is frequently through the lens of my own life.  It explores the horrible awful truths that I am afraid of but in a way that does not lead to the worst possible outcome.  For those who feel abnormal or deviant, that worst possible outcome is usually rejection, …

485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

It feels like forever since I last made a "real" post. Those who have followed me over the years know that I write quite a bit about the mental spaces that exist for both the dominant and submissive roles.  By and large, the theories I have developed pertaining to each of these represent the majority …

484. Feeling Blocked

I have been trying to write some posts lately but nothing seems to be coming out how I want it to (I have 9 unfinished drafts that have derailed).  This is usually a sign of just not being in the writing mood, but I find myself wanting to write. I have had a number of …