Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now. As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as “subspace” in an attempt to take back a word that has had its meaning changed over the past decade.
In the past I have frequently compared submissive mental space to a swimming pool. When I enter submissive mental space, I enter the pool. The depth corresponds roughly to “how submissive I feel.” Entering the pool can happen in a number of ways. I can enter the shallow end and wade in. I can jump in at any point. I can be pushed in by someone else at any point. Once in the pool, stimuli (both physical and mental) can drag me deeper or pull me to the shallows. Certain stimuli can even launch me out of the pool. When I change depths it affects my preferences, thought processes, instincts, and desires. The deeper I go, the more submissive I become.
I believe that most subs that have a subspace work in a somewhat similar way.
Figure A is an approximation of my own personal pool. In a shallow space, things progress rather slowly with a gentle slope gradually immersing me deeper. When I reach a certain depth, the descent happens more rapidly and I am more likely to slide deeper with ease, often quickly traversing the middle section into the depths. At a certain point, I find myself in deep and while stimuli may take me deeper, it happens a lot slower than it did in the middle section.
Each sub’s pool will be unique. They will vary in depth. The slope of the grade will be uniquely theirs. Their comfort zone in regards to the depth will also vary. Some subs fear the deep while others wish to live there. I believe it is fairly safe to say that when in the pool, the sub will feel submissive and be aroused and exposure to their kinks, fetishes, and other triggers will help take them deeper.
Figure B is an approximation of what the pool looks like in regards to slavespace. For those who are unfamiliar with the term, slavespace is a mental space frequently associated with extremely deep submission and usually a place that subs who are cut out for an M/s relationship can access. It is a bit dissociative, with a nearly complete erasure of self that allows a sub to exist as if they are an object, possession, or property.
As you can see, the pool is really deep but has only one space. From my experiences, slavespace is almost binary: you are in it or you are out of it. Once in that space, you can’t really become slightly more or slightly less slave-like.
The reason why I took the time to badly draw this out and write a post on a topic I have discussed 39 times before is that I believe that the Figure B pool can describe a number of different spaces. I believe that fetishists experience a “space” that is similar to this when exposed to their fetish. I believe some subs have an extremely dark space (one sub I know thinks this is their Freudian id-space) that functions in this way as well. I believe that some littles experience their little space similarly to Figure B.
I hope people find this interesting.