527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

In a couple of weeks the Femdom discussion munch I take part in will is going after another one of the topics that I suggested about 7 months ago.  The topic for this discussion is Emotional Sadism and Masochism.  I was given the task of doing the topic write-up and I did it by talking about certain types of activities and dynamics that people tend to be into without realizing that they are forms of emotional sadism and masochism.

One of the examples I used was mind-fucking.  As I’m probably going to have to lead the discussion, I figured I should be able to adequately explain what mind-fucking is.  I also know that I have never really given a decent definition of what mind-fucking is. I’ve talked about it.  I’ve given examples of it.  I’ve never really defined it.  I will make an attempt at it.  I am fully open to revising it and changing it as needed.  Feel free to tell me why my definition is wrong or incomplete, especially if you have a better one.

Definition:

Mind-Fucking is the process of causing a sub to experience significant emotional turmoil with the intent of eliciting a submissive response. 

In post 504, I also included these stipulations for mind-fucking to be effective:

  1.  The sub is immersed in their submissive mental space
  2. The sub is in a state where they have recognized the dominant as their authority figure.

In my opinion, what separates mind-fucking from regular humiliation or degradation is that mind-fucking is heavily about the process while the others are more about the outcome.  To make that more clear, mind-fucking usually involves trapping a sub in a state of self-awareness and pushing them to the point of surrender.  This process can be prolonged and drawn-out while continuously building up the sub’s fears, anticipation, insecurities, etc.  When someone enjoys mind-fucking, they generally enjoy watching the sub become increasingly more agitated, more desperate, more afraid, and so on as the process continues.

At a certain point, either through too much agitation or by advancing events to the climax point, the sub will either:

  1. Fold and surrender with their will broken.
  2. Completely break down.

When things reach this point, the sub has been successfully mind-fucked.

Mind-Fucking frequently involves some form of humiliation or degradation but it is a specialized form that has a few aspects that set it apart.  Mind-Fucking can be purely virtual, with no actual humiliation or degradation occurring.  e.g. the process may build up to a climax point/looming threat that will never happen, but the process of getting there is enough to mind-fuck the sub.  If events are carried through the climax point, then the sub is both mind-fucked and humiliated/degraded.  However, if a sub is humiliated/degraded by the same method but without the process of building emotional turmoil, it would no longer be a mind-fuck.

That probably reads like a convoluted SAT question, but I can’t think of a better way of putting it.

Something else that is probably worth briefly expanding upon is the self-awareness part that I mentioned above.  If a sub is able to enter a mental space (e.g. slave space) where their “self” is erased or where dominant’s wishes greatly outweigh the sub’s desires/feelings/wants, they will not offer up the mental resistance that is necessary to mind-fuck them.  Mind-Fucking is dependent upon the sub’s fears, worries, insecurities, etc. being brought to the surface, so there must be enough “self” present for the emotional turmoil to occur.

I can’t really think of anything else to say without just going into examples, so it’s probably a good time to stop.  I know that I wrote this mostly to clarify my own thoughts on the subject, but I hope that others will find it useful, too.

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4 thoughts on “527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

  1. Wow!!! For over a year now, I’ve been trying to put a label to explain a scene that I played in with my former Master. Mind Fucked… I was thoroughly mind fucked. In the end, it was one of the major reason our dynamic didn’t last. Thanks for helping me find clarity. ♥

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