573. Random Thought of the Day: Tall Women

I've known for a while now that I'm intensely demisexual. I still haven't come to fully grasp how different I am wired on that front compared to most people. At times this made me wonder then why I get intensely anxious around women that are taller than me. I'm not talking a bad kind of … Continue reading 573. Random Thought of the Day: Tall Women

572. Hostile vs. Neutral vs. Welcoming Profiles

Originally composed for Fetlife. Author's Note: This post was written with the assumption that people do want to receive friendly and respectful messages from people and may not be applicable to everyone. I recently talked with a friend that was thinking about redoing their Fetlife profile. Their old profile began with a giant over-sized bold … Continue reading 572. Hostile vs. Neutral vs. Welcoming Profiles

571. Emotional Masochism/Sadism: Humiliation vs. Degradation

Originally composed for Fetlife. I received a question about this in reference to a writing I posted a few days ago and it came up again in a couple of in-person conversations. I know that quite a few people use degradation and humiliation as synonyms when it comes to emotional masochism and sadism. Oddly enough, … Continue reading 571. Emotional Masochism/Sadism: Humiliation vs. Degradation

570. Emotional Masochism: Fear of Rejection and Submissive Response

I’m currently working on evolving my theories about emotional masochism and had a “new discovery” about it the other day. Apparently, I’m the last one on Earth to realize this about myself, but I hadn’t rationally connected it nor talked about it before. Usually I would wait until I have further developed my understanding of … Continue reading 570. Emotional Masochism: Fear of Rejection and Submissive Response

567. Gender Identity, Tolerance, and Generational Fears

Originally posted by me on Fetlife. I was away from the community for a long time. In that time I was gone, I somehow missed a load of social progress that I became suddenly aware of upon my return. It made me feel something that I hadn’t felt in a very long time: I felt … Continue reading 567. Gender Identity, Tolerance, and Generational Fears

565. “Sub-Sexual” and the pain of its loss

A couple of years ago I heard the term “sub-sexual” at a munch and it was one of those moments where 30 years of confusion in my life became abundantly clear with the discovery of a single word. I find it funny when simply having a vocabulary to properly understand ourselves can provide such comfort. … Continue reading 565. “Sub-Sexual” and the pain of its loss

564. Accepting Emotional Masochists

I’ve had a number of conversations recently on this topic and I think that others might find it helpful. I am an emotional masochist. I have known many emotional masochists over the years. While I don’t want this to try to speak for every emotional masochist, I know that I can represent the feelings of … Continue reading 564. Accepting Emotional Masochists