480. The Cycle Loop of Feeding Dominance and submission

Lately a topic has come to my attention that I find rather interesting.  I know that this is something I have written about in the past but since it is fresh on my mind I will revisit it. It is common knowledge that subs will undergo cravings.  Unless they are "fed," they will slowly slide …

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479. The Complicated Gray Area of Emotional Masochism

This post is a bit of a follow up to my last post, #478. While I haven't been keeping up on blog reading like I historically have, I have noticed that a number of bloggers have been tackling the topic of emotional masochism (and often back-linking to me, which makes me happy).   I see this …

478. Thoughts on D/s vs. BDSM

I'm not quite sure where this post is going to go, but this is a conversation that has come up a couple of times with both blogging friends and some of the new friends I have made in the local community. Often when I get asked what my interests are in kink communities, my primary …

474. Thoughts on the Psychology of Dynamics

One of the things that impresses me the most is when a dominant maintains an environment full of dynamics that constantly serve as fuel for their dominance and the sub's submission.  This takes quite a bit of work to create such an environment and a continuous effort to keep it rolling.  To the dominants that …

473. Thoughts on Jaded subs and Arrogant subs

I have recently been helping a new Domme screen profiles.  I also did some sleuthing in her area to see if there were any promising subs.  While collarspace is dying, there are still some people logging in and it's much easier to search/sort there than it is on fetlife. It has been a while since …

472. Thoughts on Sadism vs. Malice

It's sort of ironic that I had this blog post title already saved as a draft I was intending to write about when a couple of minutes ago a Domme friend messaged me about receiving some negative comments from someone that completely relates to this topic.  I was originally planning on writing this from a …

471. Dominance and the Light/Dark Spectrum

Posts 468, 469, and 470 dealt with the light and dark sides of submission.  As I have been helping to mentor a few new doms I thought it might be helpful to explore the other side of things. For ease, I will be using "dom" to signify dominant the noun/person/role and dominant for the adjective. …

470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3

Note: This is part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1 469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2 I received some very good comments on Part 2 from a number of other bloggers.  I realized that answering them thoroughly would basically take at least a posts's worth …

469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2

Note: This is part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1 470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3 This is sort of a continuation of my last post.  I had originally planned to combine these topics but I felt they should be split so as not get …

468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1

Note: This ended up being part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2 470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3 I have been having some conversations lately with a number of subs and a couple of topics keep popping up.  This post will include a lot of …