514. More Thoughts on D/s in the BDSM Community

Although I haven't been writing, I have still been attending munches for local BDSM groups (we have tons). I have to say that a lingering note of interest to me is the absence of D/s.  It isn't taught. It isn't talked about.  It is rarely practiced.  In many ways, it is treated as if D/s …

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511. Moderately scattered thoughts on an oddity within the F/m community

I've been struggling with ideas on what to write about lately.  Earlier today I realized that I had unearthed some pretty consistent themes while writing my Discussion Group posts.  While attempting to write something coherent I lost my train of thought and fizzled out.  I still find some of this to be interesting so I …

510. Tips on Writing an Introductory Message to a Domme

A couple of local Dommes I am helping mentor are actively seeking subs but they have been continuously bombarded with generic or poor messages from prospective subs.  I felt like writing today, so here comes a post on the subject. Having been in the position of writing a first message to a Domme, I understand …

509. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Kink Shaming, Kink Desirability, and how they fit into Femdom

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. Note: For the sake of ease, I will be using kink and fetish interchangeably rather than writing kink/fetish in every appropriate spot. …

508. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Sub-Frenzy

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. I. What is sub-frenzy? The term sub-frenzy has been around for decades, but in more recent years the definition has become rather incomplete.  …

507. Discussion Topic Write-Up: A Brief History of FLR and its place in and out of BDSM

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. Note: my background in the Femdom arena only goes back to the mid-1990s.  Much of the "early internet" was still available at …

506. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Meta-Consent

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. I. Introduction I first wrote about meta-consent back in 2011.  As of then, to the best of my knowledge, it had not been …

505. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Enforced Male Chastity

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. As this group involves only male submissives I am limiting this post to the topic of male chastity, which is a slightly …

504. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Emotional Masochism and Sadism

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts.   I should note that this post wasn't really part of my plan for discussion topics but I plan to reference these topics in …

503. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Top/Dominant, Bottom/Submissive

These are my thoughts on a potential discussion topic for a local Femdom group that I attend as I wrote about here: 501. Discussion Topics The topic of what is a top, dominant, bottom, and submissive is not a topic that I would have suggested, but it was brought up when the question was asked …