Tag: dominant

She Has the Power to Create and Reshape Reality

My last two posts, A Pragmatic View from a single male submissive and Small Doubts seem to have gotten a bit of discussion going both in comments and via private contact.  A couple of discussions today found me wanting to elaborate more upon this and how it affects things in the D/s world in general. … Continue reading She Has the Power to Create and Reshape Reality

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Thoughts on Dominance, Personality, and Domspace

I have been thinking a bit more about this lately as I am now facing the prospect of having to start my life over yet again. A while ago I wrote about submissive mental space and about how that serves as the dividing line for many people that separates their submissive persona from their vanilla … Continue reading Thoughts on Dominance, Personality, and Domspace

When we say, “slow down,” this is what we mean

EDIT:  So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made.  My apologies if either of them came off that way, my … Continue reading When we say, “slow down,” this is what we mean

Thoughts on what I tell others

Disclaimer:  I'm not in a bad mood.  I'm in a pretty good mood.  The past couple of weeks blogging I have felt more accepted than I ever have over these 7 and a half years.  These are just some thoughts swirling around in regards to comments on earlier posts. 2nd Disclaimer:  I actually received some … Continue reading Thoughts on what I tell others

Thoughts on the existence of the Dominant Female

This is a follow up post to: Thoughts on the existence of the submissive male I may be making a lot of references to that post as I don't wish to restate things that I have already said. Dominant women face their own set of challenges in this world of kink.  While many of them … Continue reading Thoughts on the existence of the Dominant Female

Thoughts on Rational vs. Irrational

I always find it amusing to ponder my lifestyle choices.  I consider submission an absolute NEED for me because so much of it focused around irrational decisions that I willingly make to satiate the need. It's common when talking about D/s for me to reference submission as being irrational.  People tend to battle me on … Continue reading Thoughts on Rational vs. Irrational

Thoughts on contrarianism in D/s

I'm sure that almost everyone has encountered at least one person in their lives that exhibits contrary or defiant behavior or thought processes. They don't want to do something until they are told not to. They don't want something until they are told they can't have it. If something is established as popular belief they … Continue reading Thoughts on contrarianism in D/s

Dominant and submissive: Noun vs. Adjective

I've been having quite a few D/s discussions lately which has been nice, but I have to say that many people have very different definitions of Dominant and submissive and what those words entail. I really don't wish to hash out every point of view here, but I would like to make a handful of … Continue reading Dominant and submissive: Noun vs. Adjective

Searching for a Term or Five

The world hates labels, but occasionally differences arise that make them desirable.  I like to disguise labels with the word "terminology."  Terms have a definition and give the term its unique meaning.  It's still a label but meh. Something I find fascinating is that the varying number of sub terms but relatively few terms for … Continue reading Searching for a Term or Five