472. Thoughts on Sadism vs. Malice

It's sort of ironic that I had this blog post title already saved as a draft I was intending to write about when a couple of minutes ago a Domme friend messaged me about receiving some negative comments from someone that completely relates to this topic.  I was originally planning on writing this from a …

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463. My Understanding of Domspace and Dominant Mental Space

For those of you who have been reading for a while, you may remember that when I was writing my fs02 erotica I went through a process to try to understand how things work within the mind of a sadist.  Since then, I have evolved my theory based upon discussions with dominants and wanted to …

384. Evolving Entitlement: Dismissive Attitude

I know that this is a repeat topic for me, but a number of Dommes I know have been blogging over entitlement in the past week and I thought it would be a good time to write about this again as it sort of follows suit.  I find entitlement absolutely fascinating because it is not …

352. Dominate PSA 2018 Edition

So... I got invited to a kik group and after 5 days I feel the need to make another public service announcement. Dominate.  Verb.  Def: have a commanding influence on; exercise control over. Example Usage: I dominate.  She dominated.  They will dominate. Corresponding Adjective: Dominant Corresponding Noun: Dominance Corresponding Substantive Noun/Pronoun(s): Dominant, Dom, Domme I don't …

337. Thoughts on Sadism and Parallel Voices

Sorry if this post is a bit roundabout.  A lot of it is me getting my thoughts down as I try to organize them. While writing Arcs 3 and 4 of fs02 one of the themes I explored was a Domme discovering, exploring, and developing her sadistic side.  This was excruciatingly challenging for me seeing …

334. Thoughts on Respecting Roles

While writing my Thoughts on Training, as I neared the end I realized just how much frustration and bitterness I have developed over the past three years when it comes to the BDSM community as a whole.  I felt myself having to hold back from going off on a rant/tirade.  I hate that feeling.  I …

286. She Has the Power to Create and Reshape Reality

My last two posts, A Pragmatic View from a single male submissive and Small Doubts seem to have gotten a bit of discussion going both in comments and via private contact.  A couple of discussions today found me wanting to elaborate more upon this and how it affects things in the D/s world in general. …

271. Thoughts on Dominance, Personality, and Domspace

I have been thinking a bit more about this lately as I am now facing the prospect of having to start my life over yet again. A while ago I wrote about submissive mental space and about how that serves as the dividing line for many people that separates their submissive persona from their vanilla …

214. When we say, “slow down,” this is what we mean

EDIT:  So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made.  My apologies if either of them came off that way, my …

195. Thoughts on what I tell others

Disclaimer:  I'm not in a bad mood.  I'm in a pretty good mood.  The past couple of weeks blogging I have felt more accepted than I ever have over these 7 and a half years.  These are just some thoughts swirling around in regards to comments on earlier posts. 2nd Disclaimer:  I actually received some …