497. Thoughts on Experience Levels on both sides of the slash

There is another topic that has been lurking around in my brain for the past month or two and is quite relevant with the mentoring that I have been doing this year that I mentioned in my last post. I haven't encountered too many available subs out there with a highly-refined and evolved sense of …

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496. Wednesday Ramblings on subs and Dommes

I had originally planned on writing a follow-up post to my last post but after some deliberation and conversation with others I decided against it.  While the content of this post may be somewhat related, it is not what I had originally considered writing. This year has been a very busy one for me in …

485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

It feels like forever since I last made a "real" post. Those who have followed me over the years know that I write quite a bit about the mental spaces that exist for both the dominant and submissive roles.  By and large, the theories I have developed pertaining to each of these represent the majority …

472. Thoughts on Sadism vs. Malice

It's sort of ironic that I had this blog post title already saved as a draft I was intending to write about when a couple of minutes ago a Domme friend messaged me about receiving some negative comments from someone that completely relates to this topic.  I was originally planning on writing this from a …

463. My Understanding of Domspace and Dominant Mental Space

For those of you who have been reading for a while, you may remember that when I was writing my fs02 erotica I went through a process to try to understand how things work within the mind of a sadist.  Since then, I have evolved my theory based upon discussions with dominants and wanted to …

384. Evolving Entitlement: Dismissive Attitude

I know that this is a repeat topic for me, but a number of Dommes I know have been blogging over entitlement in the past week and I thought it would be a good time to write about this again as it sort of follows suit.  I find entitlement absolutely fascinating because it is not …

352. Dominate PSA 2018 Edition

So... I got invited to a kik group and after 5 days I feel the need to make another public service announcement. Dominate.  Verb.  Def: have a commanding influence on; exercise control over. Example Usage: I dominate.  She dominated.  They will dominate. Corresponding Adjective: Dominant Corresponding Noun: Dominance Corresponding Substantive Noun/Pronoun(s): Dominant, Dom, Domme I don't …

337. Thoughts on Sadism and Parallel Voices

Sorry if this post is a bit roundabout.  A lot of it is me getting my thoughts down as I try to organize them. While writing Arcs 3 and 4 of fs02 one of the themes I explored was a Domme discovering, exploring, and developing her sadistic side.  This was excruciatingly challenging for me seeing …

334. Thoughts on Respecting Roles

While writing my Thoughts on Training, as I neared the end I realized just how much frustration and bitterness I have developed over the past three years when it comes to the BDSM community as a whole.  I felt myself having to hold back from going off on a rant/tirade.  I hate that feeling.  I …

286. She Has the Power to Create and Reshape Reality

My last two posts, A Pragmatic View from a single male submissive and Small Doubts seem to have gotten a bit of discussion going both in comments and via private contact.  A couple of discussions today found me wanting to elaborate more upon this and how it affects things in the D/s world in general. …