581. Expressing Desires through Fiction

Originally posted on Fetlife. My apologies if this seems unfocused or a bit jumbled. I still haven't been sleeping well and my brain is turning to mush. Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection and having a lot of conversations about people’s struggles in kink. I find that the …

573. Random Thought of the Day: Tall Women

I've known for a while now that I'm intensely demisexual. I still haven't come to fully grasp how different I am wired on that front compared to most people. At times this made me wonder then why I get intensely anxious around women that are taller than me. I'm not talking a bad kind of …

572. Hostile vs. Neutral vs. Welcoming Profiles

Originally composed for Fetlife. Author's Note: This post was written with the assumption that people do want to receive friendly and respectful messages from people and may not be applicable to everyone. I recently talked with a friend that was thinking about redoing their Fetlife profile. Their old profile began with a giant over-sized bold …

571. Emotional Masochism/Sadism: Humiliation vs. Degradation

Originally composed for Fetlife. I received a question about this in reference to a writing I posted a few days ago and it came up again in a couple of in-person conversations. I know that quite a few people use degradation and humiliation as synonyms when it comes to emotional masochism and sadism. Oddly enough, …

554. Analyzing the Multiple-Domme Fantasy

Note: A lot of this will be rehashed topics from the past year but it is on my mind. A Domme friend of mine recently asked me why her sub has this recurring fantasy about being exposed to, humiliated in front of, and used by a group of (presumably dominant) women.  I find this topic …

532. A sub’s thoughts on Domme Profiles

Last year I did a lot of writing about male sub profiles, writing introductory messages, and the like.  With the ramp up in meeting people in person at social events and inevitably reading the profiles of the people I am meeting another related topic has come to mind lately. Now that I think about it, …

519. Thoughts on the existence of the dark Domme

This post has been due for a while now. Over the past 4 years or so, I had a the sense that my style of submission was on the verge of extinction.  This wasn't because of a shortage of subs that submit in the way that I do, but more so because of a shift …

497. Thoughts on Experience Levels on both sides of the slash

There is another topic that has been lurking around in my brain for the past month or two and is quite relevant with the mentoring that I have been doing this year that I mentioned in my last post. I haven't encountered too many available subs out there with a highly-refined and evolved sense of …

496. Wednesday Ramblings on subs and Dommes

I had originally planned on writing a follow-up post to my last post but after some deliberation and conversation with others I decided against it.  While the content of this post may be somewhat related, it is not what I had originally considered writing. This year has been a very busy one for me in …

485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

It feels like forever since I last made a "real" post. Those who have followed me over the years know that I write quite a bit about the mental spaces that exist for both the dominant and submissive roles.  By and large, the theories I have developed pertaining to each of these represent the majority …