Tag: D/s

536. What I am (2019)

Some comments on a couple of recent posts made me realize that it has been a while that I have really talked much at all about my submission and the dynamics that I desire.  There are definitely reasons that I hide parts of myself both while blogging and in my local BDSM community.  I don't … Continue reading 536. What I am (2019)

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534. Absolute Consent

As things go in the ever-evolving nature of BDSM terminology, it appears that there has been yet another change.  There is a Fetlife group I have been following for years that tends to be the "cutting edge" discussion on this topic and their name seems to change every couple of years. Consensual Non-Consent -> Meta-Consent … Continue reading 534. Absolute Consent

530. “A Positive Submissive Response”

Over the past few months I have had quite a few discussions while trying to explain how the mechanics of D/s tend to work in various environments, especially in regards to subs. What I have found is that as a whole, there is very little common understanding of what subs "get out of it" if … Continue reading 530. “A Positive Submissive Response”

528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

Some days I wonder why I keep on blogging.  It's not that I have a reason to stop, it's that I find it harder to have a reason to continue.  In any case... A week ago I took part in a Femdom discussion munch that chose my topic of emotional sadism and masochism.   I had … Continue reading 528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

In a couple of weeks the Femdom discussion munch I take part in will is going after another one of the topics that I suggested about 7 months ago.  The topic for this discussion is Emotional Sadism and Masochism.  I was given the task of doing the topic write-up and I did it by talking … Continue reading 527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

526. Thoughts on Switches and the Submissive Male

A comment on my last post led to an exchange where I feel like I uncovered something relatively important.  I will try to keep this as neat and clean as possible. I've written a lot in the past about the struggles of the submissive male with self-acceptance and society's bias against them, even in the … Continue reading 526. Thoughts on Switches and the Submissive Male

523. Thoughts on Feeling Submissive vs. Being Dominated

So I've been writing and scrapping versions of this post for roughly three months now.  I've had a number of conversations about this topic over the past couple of months as well, but I have never been happy enough with the end result to publish it and they ended up on the trash heap.  Here … Continue reading 523. Thoughts on Feeling Submissive vs. Being Dominated

522. Humiliation is an Extension of the Real World

The other day I was explaining to someone about how humiliation can affect submission and I used the phrase, "humiliation is an extension of the real world."  It took me about five seconds to realize how much truth there was in that statement. I usually assume that by the time someone has developed a strong … Continue reading 522. Humiliation is an Extension of the Real World