Tag: D/s

467. Q&A from Porn Girl

Porn Girl was kind enough to ask me some questions in the comments of my last post.  Here goes. 1) When was the last time you “made love”, if ever? Sometime in the fall of 2012.  It was before T had hip surgery.  We were intimate one more time after that where she gave me … Continue reading 467. Q&A from Porn Girl

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465. Thoughts on the Darkness in male subs

I have had the pleasure of interacting with some very new Dommes and switches this past week and this topic has popped up a couple of times so I thought it would be good to blog about it.  Some of this will be rehash of earlier posts but I am trying to combine the concepts … Continue reading 465. Thoughts on the Darkness in male subs

463. My Understanding of Domspace and Dominant Mental Space

For those of you who have been reading for a while, you may remember that when I was writing my fs02 erotica I went through a process to try to understand how things work within the mind of a sadist.  Since then, I have evolved my theory based upon discussions with dominants and wanted to … Continue reading 463. My Understanding of Domspace and Dominant Mental Space

462. Thoughts on Appearances

One of the more individual views that people in D/s have is how the dynamics of their relationship appear to outsiders.  Some have a group of kink-aware friends they keep separate from their vanilla friends.  Some have a few trusted confidants they share their lifestyle with.  Some keep it a secret from everyone. In my … Continue reading 462. Thoughts on Appearances

460. Thoughts on Communication Struggles and Submissive Guilt

The blogosphere is littered with accounts of subs talking about struggling to communicate their needs and desires.  This is especially true when they hit a state of frenzy, and it is often the reason that they reached frenzy in the first place. There are various reasons why people do not communicate what they need.  A … Continue reading 460. Thoughts on Communication Struggles and Submissive Guilt

456. Thoughts on Awareness and Self-Image

It's difficult for me to see myself as desirable.  I know that I have strengths.  I am smart, compassionate, and have a big heart.  I am romantic, empathetic, funny, and loyal.  I am responsible and motivated, competent and decisive.  As a sub, I am dedicated, loving, and willing and versatile enough to be whatever she … Continue reading 456. Thoughts on Awareness and Self-Image

455. Thoughts on views on locks, restraints, etc.

In the past I have written about the differing psychological effects on submission of various methods of restraints.  I have felt that chain can affect someone differently than say, rope or cloth.  I have felt that steel and locks can affect someone differently than the "honor system," velcro, standard buckles, or snap hooks. I've never … Continue reading 455. Thoughts on views on locks, restraints, etc.