Tag: emotional masochism

553. The Evolving Narrative

I have pretty much given up on the idea of healing certain parts of my damage.  These are the parts that I have been able to integrate into my submission and I honestly find them... addictive to have to face them within the confines of my submission.  Facing the damage head on acts as fuel … Continue reading 553. The Evolving Narrative

551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces

Something that I have been struggling with lately is the battle between my two submissive mental spaces. There is my service-side. There is my emotional masochist side. Each of these spaces has a distinctly different feel to them and an entirely separate set of preferences, ideals, and philosophies that govern them. My service side wants … Continue reading 551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces

528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

Some days I wonder why I keep on blogging.  It's not that I have a reason to stop, it's that I find it harder to have a reason to continue.  In any case... A week ago I took part in a Femdom discussion munch that chose my topic of emotional sadism and masochism.   I had … Continue reading 528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

In a couple of weeks the Femdom discussion munch I take part in will is going after another one of the topics that I suggested about 7 months ago.  The topic for this discussion is Emotional Sadism and Masochism.  I was given the task of doing the topic write-up and I did it by talking … Continue reading 527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

522. Humiliation is an Extension of the Real World

The other day I was explaining to someone about how humiliation can affect submission and I used the phrase, "humiliation is an extension of the real world."  It took me about five seconds to realize how much truth there was in that statement. I usually assume that by the time someone has developed a strong … Continue reading 522. Humiliation is an Extension of the Real World

504. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Emotional Masochism and Sadism

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts.   I should note that this post wasn't really part of my plan for discussion topics but I plan to reference these topics in … Continue reading 504. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Emotional Masochism and Sadism

486. Thoughts on Emotional Masochism and Healing

When I have written about emotional masochism it is frequently through the lens of my own life.  It explores the horrible awful truths that I am afraid of but in a way that does not lead to the worst possible outcome.  For those who feel abnormal or deviant, that worst possible outcome is usually rejection, … Continue reading 486. Thoughts on Emotional Masochism and Healing

479. The Complicated Gray Area of Emotional Masochism

This post is a bit of a follow up to my last post, #478. While I haven't been keeping up on blog reading like I historically have, I have noticed that a number of bloggers have been tackling the topic of emotional masochism (and often back-linking to me, which makes me happy).   I see this … Continue reading 479. The Complicated Gray Area of Emotional Masochism

287. The Struggles of Emotional Masochism

I have to believe that emotional masochism is one of the most difficult things in BDSM to cope with, understand, and communicate about.  Trying to describe it often feels shameful.  This can be a challenge for those who don't understand it because it is a struggle to communicate.  Hell, a lot of emotional masochists suck … Continue reading 287. The Struggles of Emotional Masochism

239. Emotional masochism, humiliation, mindfucking, emotional sadism, etc.

My last post brought in some comments that made me realize I should make a clarifying post to better describe how the interplay works as well as where boundary lines fall. I have written quite a bit on humiliation, most recently I wrote something for Nora a while back at her request. First off, some … Continue reading 239. Emotional masochism, humiliation, mindfucking, emotional sadism, etc.