Tag: emotional masochism

559. Thoughts on “Owning it”

This is a follow-up to my last post. I've been thinking more about the healing potential of people owning their inner demons rather than overcoming them.  I know that this is something that I have experienced in some ways.  I can't re-write how my inner-truths work but I can come to terms with them and … Continue reading 559. Thoughts on “Owning it”

558. Emotional Masochism: “Owning it” vs. Healing

Within the past month or so, I have had a number of interactions with people who were curious about emotional masochism and the possibility of incorporating it into their experiences, play, or dynamics.  A couple of the people were looking specifically at using it as a means to heal from past or accumulated psychological damage. … Continue reading 558. Emotional Masochism: “Owning it” vs. Healing

557. Thoughts on Degradation vs. Humiliation

A short while ago someone asked me for tips on how to humiliate a sub.  What began as a set of tips soon evolved into a 20,000+ word multi-part write up that had me delving to every aspect I could think of on the subject.  I thought about posting it here, but the response was … Continue reading 557. Thoughts on Degradation vs. Humiliation

553. The Evolving Narrative

I have pretty much given up on the idea of healing certain parts of my damage.  These are the parts that I have been able to integrate into my submission and I honestly find them... addictive to have to face them within the confines of my submission.  Facing the damage head on acts as fuel … Continue reading 553. The Evolving Narrative

551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces

Something that I have been struggling with lately is the battle between my two submissive mental spaces. There is my service-side. There is my emotional masochist side. Each of these spaces has a distinctly different feel to them and an entirely separate set of preferences, ideals, and philosophies that govern them. My service side wants … Continue reading 551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces

528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

Some days I wonder why I keep on blogging.  It's not that I have a reason to stop, it's that I find it harder to have a reason to continue.  In any case... A week ago I took part in a Femdom discussion munch that chose my topic of emotional sadism and masochism.   I had … Continue reading 528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

In a couple of weeks the Femdom discussion munch I take part in will is going after another one of the topics that I suggested about 7 months ago.  The topic for this discussion is Emotional Sadism and Masochism.  I was given the task of doing the topic write-up and I did it by talking … Continue reading 527. Thoughts on Mind-Fucking (2019)

522. Humiliation is an Extension of the Real World

The other day I was explaining to someone about how humiliation can affect submission and I used the phrase, "humiliation is an extension of the real world."  It took me about five seconds to realize how much truth there was in that statement. I usually assume that by the time someone has developed a strong … Continue reading 522. Humiliation is an Extension of the Real World

504. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Emotional Masochism and Sadism

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts.   I should note that this post wasn't really part of my plan for discussion topics but I plan to reference these topics in … Continue reading 504. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Emotional Masochism and Sadism

486. Thoughts on Emotional Masochism and Healing

When I have written about emotional masochism it is frequently through the lens of my own life.  It explores the horrible awful truths that I am afraid of but in a way that does not lead to the worst possible outcome.  For those who feel abnormal or deviant, that worst possible outcome is usually rejection, … Continue reading 486. Thoughts on Emotional Masochism and Healing