This is a follow up to post 537. Thoughts on Shame as a Fetish. Thank you everyone for the comments on 537. I plan to respond to them tomorrow when my head is feeling clearer. I had some talks about the content of that post and I wanted to elaborate on it now when the … Continue reading 538. Expanding Upon Thoughts on Shame as a Fetish
This is another topic I had planned to write about during my last hiatus but never got around to it. For the purpose of this post I will be using the term "fetish" to mean a non-standard (aka non-sexual) act, object, or body part that elicits a sexual response. For me to classify something as … Continue reading 516. Thoughts on unpopular fetishes
I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. Note: For the sake of ease, I will be using kink and fetish interchangeably rather than writing kink/fetish in every appropriate spot. … Continue reading 509. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Kink Shaming, Kink Desirability, and how they fit into Femdom
Last night I had a brief discussion with a male sub that is going through a phase of doubts that I remember going through roughly 10 years ago. Basically, it is the worry that certain aspects of your submissive fetish set may hold very little appeal to potential Dommes. This idea gave me years of … Continue reading 386. Fetish Evolution and Portrayal: Steering Your Narrative
I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating. She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens. I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that. BDSM was presented in a … Continue reading 345. Born from Denial?
Notyouraveragegirl and SaydistGirl both had some follow up questions in the comments on my post Thoughts on Life-Shaping Events and D/s. I wanted to address it a bit more here. I believe that we are, by and large, a mixture of nature and nurture. Our genetic disposition and base brain instincts are responsible for some. … Continue reading 327. Thoughts on Kink Formation: How do we become what we are?
I've never viewed my fetishes as a means of getting off. I've always seen them as a means to enslave me. I never wanted to have them. The guilt and shame that helped birth desires into fetishes created self-inflicted wounds. I can never be "normal" ever again. I live with the deep, dark secret that … Continue reading 316. Fetish as a Weapon
I received a comment on my last post that has inspired me to write another post (which made me very happy). The post that I am about to write is not meant to detract from the views shared, it is merely something that set off a chain reaction of thoughts that I will spew onto … Continue reading 261. Thoughts on Kink vs. Submission
strokemetillipurr wrote a post on Fetishes today that I found quite lovely. Actually, it filled me with envy and questions of what if? It got me thinking about how I feel about my fetishes. The first thing I would say is that if I had a friend like the author back when I was suffering … Continue reading 211. Fetish Control
Quite honestly over the past couple of weeks I think I have had more fun blogging than I have had in years. I consider the verb, blogging to encompass writing blog posts, reading blog posts, leaving comments on other blogs, and responding to comments. It has been at least 5 years since I have felt … Continue reading 174. Symbolism vs. Fetish