Last night I had a brief discussion with a male sub that is going through a phase of doubts that I remember going through roughly 10 years ago. Basically, it is the worry that certain aspects of your submissive fetish set may hold very little appeal to potential Dommes. This idea gave me years of … Continue reading 386. Fetish Evolution and Portrayal: Steering Your Narrative
I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating. She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens. I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that. BDSM was presented in a … Continue reading 345. Born from Denial?
Notyouraveragegirl and SaydistGirl both had some follow up questions in the comments on my post Thoughts on Life-Shaping Events and D/s. I wanted to address it a bit more here. I believe that we are, by and large, a mixture of nature and nurture. Our genetic disposition and base brain instincts are responsible for some. … Continue reading 327. Thoughts on Kink Formation: How do we become what we are?
I've never viewed my fetishes as a means of getting off. I've always seen them as a means to enslave me. I never wanted to have them. The guilt and shame that helped birth desires into fetishes created self-inflicted wounds. I can never be "normal" ever again. I live with the deep, dark secret that … Continue reading 316. Fetish as a Weapon
I received a comment on my last post that has inspired me to write another post (which made me very happy). The post that I am about to write is not meant to detract from the views shared, it is merely something that set off a chain reaction of thoughts that I will spew onto … Continue reading 261. Thoughts on Kink vs. Submission
strokemetillipurr wrote a post on Fetishes today that I found quite lovely. Actually, it filled me with envy and questions of what if? It got me thinking about how I feel about my fetishes. The first thing I would say is that if I had a friend like the author back when I was suffering … Continue reading 211. Fetish Control
Quite honestly over the past couple of weeks I think I have had more fun blogging than I have had in years. I consider the verb, blogging to encompass writing blog posts, reading blog posts, leaving comments on other blogs, and responding to comments. It has been at least 5 years since I have felt … Continue reading 174. Symbolism vs. Fetish
I wanted to give a thank you to Ms Dixie and Nora for their comments on the first post. I'm feeling vulnerable, exposed, and submissive at the moment. Which seems like a prime time to delve deeper into that which I fear to show. The positive and playful responses make this easier to feel like … Continue reading 163. An exercise in humility part 2
This past week I had someone ask me some questions about fetishes and it got me thinking quite a bit on the subject. This also seems to flow with some of the things I have written about over the past few days. While there are those in the lifestyle that would deny the sexual nature … Continue reading 161. Kinks, Fetishes, and D/s
A big thanks to Vanessa at Queening Chairs for reminding me that I still hadn't purchased Sardax's Venus in Furs book. Sardax is my favorite fetish artist of all time and served as one of my gateways into the realm of Femdom when I first stumbled upon his artwork circa 1997. While his pay site … Continue reading 135. Sardax’s Venus in Furs