Originally posted on Fetlife. My apologies if this seems unfocused or a bit jumbled. I still haven't been sleeping well and my brain is turning to mush. Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection and having a lot of conversations about people’s struggles in kink. I find that the … Continue reading 581. Expressing Desires through Fiction
This is a follow-up to my last post. I've been thinking more about the healing potential of people owning their inner demons rather than overcoming them. I know that this is something that I have experienced in some ways. I can't re-write how my inner-truths work but I can come to terms with them and … Continue reading 559. Thoughts on “Owning it”
Something that I don't talk about much is the fact that I get really turned on when I write certain posts. A similar thing happens when I talk about and discuss Femdom-relevant topics. This is the result of the fact that I begin to teeter on the edge of my submissive mental space, and the … Continue reading 550. Thoughts on Meta-Fetishes and Meta-Kinks
In the past month or two I have made some new friends within the community that are 10-15 years older than me and been active in kink nearly as long or longer than I have. They have gone out of their way to make me feel comfortable. They want me to feel safe being my … Continue reading 547. Thoughts on expressing what I am
This is a follow up to post 537. Thoughts on Shame as a Fetish. Thank you everyone for the comments on 537. I plan to respond to them tomorrow when my head is feeling clearer. I had some talks about the content of that post and I wanted to elaborate on it now when the … Continue reading 538. Expanding Upon Thoughts on Shame as a Fetish
This is another topic I had planned to write about during my last hiatus but never got around to it. For the purpose of this post I will be using the term "fetish" to mean a non-standard (aka non-sexual) act, object, or body part that elicits a sexual response. For me to classify something as … Continue reading 516. Thoughts on unpopular fetishes
I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. Note: For the sake of ease, I will be using kink and fetish interchangeably rather than writing kink/fetish in every appropriate spot. … Continue reading 509. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Kink Shaming, Kink Desirability, and how they fit into Femdom
Last night I had a brief discussion with a male sub that is going through a phase of doubts that I remember going through roughly 10 years ago. Basically, it is the worry that certain aspects of your submissive fetish set may hold very little appeal to potential Dommes. This idea gave me years of … Continue reading 386. Fetish Evolution and Portrayal: Steering Your Narrative
I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating. She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens. I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that. BDSM was presented in a … Continue reading 345. Born from Denial?
Notyouraveragegirl and SaydistGirl both had some follow up questions in the comments on my post Thoughts on Life-Shaping Events and D/s. I wanted to address it a bit more here. I believe that we are, by and large, a mixture of nature and nurture. Our genetic disposition and base brain instincts are responsible for some. … Continue reading 327. Thoughts on Kink Formation: How do we become what we are?