Tag: subspace

502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. As this is designed for a Femdom discussion group, it may lean more heavily towards the F/m end of the spectrum although I … Continue reading 502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

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491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now.  As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its … Continue reading 491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

It feels like forever since I last made a "real" post. Those who have followed me over the years know that I write quite a bit about the mental spaces that exist for both the dominant and submissive roles.  By and large, the theories I have developed pertaining to each of these represent the majority … Continue reading 485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

376. Thoughts on what submissive mental space is like

I recently had a conversation with a friend/reader that brought up the idea of writing another submissive male point of view erotica work.  The request that they had was that the protagonist would have a rich array of thoughts and emotions at work like Wanda in fs02, and less like fs's minimal thoughts portrayed in … Continue reading 376. Thoughts on what submissive mental space is like

357. Splitting Submissive Mental Spaces

I was asked some questions tonight that forced me to get more specific about submissive mental space than I had in a long time. These might be helpful if you are unfamiliar with this topic: Separating self and spaces How Submissive Mental Space Works Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics I will be … Continue reading 357. Splitting Submissive Mental Spaces

345. Born from Denial?

I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating.  She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens.  I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that.  BDSM was presented in a … Continue reading 345. Born from Denial?

335. Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics

This is sort of a follow-up to my post yesterday, Thoughts on Training. For ease and because I want to, I will be using "subspace" in place of submissive mental space. Subspace is one of those tricky concepts because I think that it's very difficult for people to spot it.  Eager and willing subs, especially … Continue reading 335. Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics

294. Thinking more about Submissive Mental Space

Submissive mental space (or subspace, as I prefer to refer to it), is one of my favorite topics to discuss.  I believe that it serves such an integral place in submission and the healthy maintenance of a D/s relationship, yet it gets talked about so infrequently as a whole.  I have asked the question of … Continue reading 294. Thinking more about Submissive Mental Space

260. Reflecting on my spaces

As I have recently come to accept that I do have a submissive little space I am starting to find where the dividing lines fall between my normal submissive mental space and my submissive little space. The submissive personas that surface within each of them are rather different.  The triggers that get them there are … Continue reading 260. Reflecting on my spaces