Tag: subspace

552. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces Part 2

I lost my train of thought while writing Post 551 and never managed to circle back in the way that I had hoped. Over the years I have become well aware of the tug of war between my mental spaces that encompass my service submission and my emotional masochism.  There is no real balance.  Neglect … Continue reading 552. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces Part 2

551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces

Something that I have been struggling with lately is the battle between my two submissive mental spaces. There is my service-side. There is my emotional masochist side. Each of these spaces has a distinctly different feel to them and an entirely separate set of preferences, ideals, and philosophies that govern them. My service side wants … Continue reading 551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces

502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. As this is designed for a Femdom discussion group, it may lean more heavily towards the F/m end of the spectrum although I … Continue reading 502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now.  As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its … Continue reading 491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

It feels like forever since I last made a "real" post. Those who have followed me over the years know that I write quite a bit about the mental spaces that exist for both the dominant and submissive roles.  By and large, the theories I have developed pertaining to each of these represent the majority … Continue reading 485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

376. Thoughts on what submissive mental space is like

I recently had a conversation with a friend/reader that brought up the idea of writing another submissive male point of view erotica work.  The request that they had was that the protagonist would have a rich array of thoughts and emotions at work like Wanda in fs02, and less like fs's minimal thoughts portrayed in … Continue reading 376. Thoughts on what submissive mental space is like

357. Splitting Submissive Mental Spaces

I was asked some questions tonight that forced me to get more specific about submissive mental space than I had in a long time. These might be helpful if you are unfamiliar with this topic: Separating self and spaces How Submissive Mental Space Works Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics I will be … Continue reading 357. Splitting Submissive Mental Spaces

345. Born from Denial?

I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating.  She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens.  I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that.  BDSM was presented in a … Continue reading 345. Born from Denial?

335. Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics

This is sort of a follow-up to my post yesterday, Thoughts on Training. For ease and because I want to, I will be using "subspace" in place of submissive mental space. Subspace is one of those tricky concepts because I think that it's very difficult for people to spot it.  Eager and willing subs, especially … Continue reading 335. Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics