581. Expressing Desires through Fiction

My apologies if this seems unfocused or a bit jumbled. I still haven't been sleeping well and my brain is turning to mush. Over the last couple of weeks I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection and having a lot of conversations about people’s struggles in kink. I find that the more “off the beaten …

563. The Trauma of “What everyone will think”

Over the past week or so, I have been doing a lot of deep analysis on what I need(ed) and what I want(ed) and how it fits into the larger puzzle. I know I'm not alone in this... I was raised in a household where the fear of "what everyone else will think" was often …

550. Thoughts on Meta-Fetishes and Meta-Kinks

Something that I don't talk about much is the fact that I get really turned on when I write certain posts.  A similar thing happens when I talk about and discuss Femdom-relevant topics.  This is the result of the fact that I begin to teeter on the edge of my submissive mental space, and the …

538. Expanding Upon Thoughts on Shame as a Fetish

This is a follow up to post 537. Thoughts on Shame as a Fetish. Thank you everyone for the comments on 537.  I plan to respond to them tomorrow when my head is feeling clearer.  I had some talks about the content of that post and I wanted to elaborate on it now when the …

516. Thoughts on unpopular fetishes

This is another topic I had planned to write about during my last hiatus but never got around to it. For the purpose of this post I will be using the term "fetish" to mean a non-standard (aka non-sexual) act, object, or body part that elicits a sexual response.  For me to classify something as …

509. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Kink Shaming, Kink Desirability, and how they fit into Femdom

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. Note: For the sake of ease, I will be using kink and fetish interchangeably rather than writing kink/fetish in every appropriate spot. …

368. I started a Fetlife group for Bloggers

So apparently my contemplating lasted about 10 minutes and I went ahead and made one. Here is the group: https://fetlife.com/groups/168330

327. Thoughts on Kink Formation: How do we become what we are?

Notyouraveragegirl and SaydistGirl both had some follow up questions in the comments on my post Thoughts on Life-Shaping Events and D/s.  I wanted to address it a bit more here. I believe that we are, by and large, a mixture of nature and nurture.  Our genetic disposition and base brain instincts are responsible for some.  …

261. Thoughts on Kink vs. Submission

I received a comment on my last post that has inspired me to write another post (which made me very happy).  The post that I am about to write is not meant to detract from the views shared, it is merely something that set off a chain reaction of thoughts that I will spew onto …

193. Thoughts on Popular Opinion

A handful of my recent posts were heavily rooted in Popular Opinion.  While I was about to start another post on a different subject, I realized that there isn't much discussion about Popular Opinion in kink.  You will find lots of rants about it, but rarely is it just talked about. I think there are …