518. Recent Community Experiences

Her: "You know, all the other subs are jealous of you, right?" Me: "What?  Who?  What?  Jealous of what?" Her: "All of the male subs.  They are all jealous of you." Me: "What?  Jealous of what?" Her: "That Dommes talk to you and pay attention to what you have to say.  I can't believe you …

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515. Thoughts on “broken” subs

Over the past few weeks, and especially the past few days, I have had some recent discussions about submission and a recurring theme has continued to pop up: the idea of "broken" subs.  Over the course of these discussions I found myself committing many words to paper that had only existed in my head up …

508. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Sub-Frenzy

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. I. What is sub-frenzy? The term sub-frenzy has been around for decades, but in more recent years the definition has become rather incomplete.  …

497. Thoughts on Experience Levels on both sides of the slash

There is another topic that has been lurking around in my brain for the past month or two and is quite relevant with the mentoring that I have been doing this year that I mentioned in my last post. I haven't encountered too many available subs out there with a highly-refined and evolved sense of …

496. Wednesday Ramblings on subs and Dommes

I had originally planned on writing a follow-up post to my last post but after some deliberation and conversation with others I decided against it.  While the content of this post may be somewhat related, it is not what I had originally considered writing. This year has been a very busy one for me in …

491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now.  As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its …

489. Thoughts upon me, the submissive

The history of my life has been one where I have never felt desirable nor attractive.  I have always been different.  Different in such a way that the difference would be the characteristic that stood out the most.  Different was bad.  I would have to be twice as good to be considered half as good.  …

485. Mental Spaces, Integration, and Awakenings

It feels like forever since I last made a "real" post. Those who have followed me over the years know that I write quite a bit about the mental spaces that exist for both the dominant and submissive roles.  By and large, the theories I have developed pertaining to each of these represent the majority …

473. Thoughts on Jaded subs and Arrogant subs

I have recently been helping a new Domme screen profiles.  I also did some sleuthing in her area to see if there were any promising subs.  While collarspace is dying, there are still some people logging in and it's much easier to search/sort there than it is on fetlife. It has been a while since …

470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3

Note: This is part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1 469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2 I received some very good comments on Part 2 from a number of other bloggers.  I realized that answering them thoroughly would basically take at least a posts's worth …