507. Discussion Topic Write-Up: A Brief History of FLR and its place in and out of BDSM

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a Femdom discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. Note: my background in the Femdom arena only goes back to the mid-1990s.  Much of the "early internet" was still available at …

462. Thoughts on Appearances

One of the more individual views that people in D/s have is how the dynamics of their relationship appear to outsiders.  Some have a group of kink-aware friends they keep separate from their vanilla friends.  Some have a few trusted confidants they share their lifestyle with.  Some keep it a secret from everyone. In my …

375. Thoughts on “The Big Takeaway”

It was roughly seven years ago that Lady Grey at Woman in Control made a post called "The Big Takeaway."  Unfortunately this post was lost when she deleted a number of her early posts but some conversations that I have had recently with some newer Dommes got me thinking about it once again and I …

261. Thoughts on Kink vs. Submission

I received a comment on my last post that has inspired me to write another post (which made me very happy).  The post that I am about to write is not meant to detract from the views shared, it is merely something that set off a chain reaction of thoughts that I will spew onto …

150. Evolving the submissive self

Being a submissive in the D/s lifestyle is one of the few times where a person constantly evolves under the guidance of a true merit-based system. Certain behaviors are encouraged while others are discouraged. Over time we find ourselves shaped into the image that the Domme desires. At each plateau, repetition helps polish our skills …

147. Compromises

Note: This is written from the standpoint of those interested in a 24-7 lifestyle Femdom or FLR type relationship and will not pertain as much to those seeking a more casual BDSM-oriented relationship. In the majority of the advice I write geared at single subs attempting to court a Domme, I generally preach to be …

26. An absolutely perfect depiction

I found this today in a tumblr feed.  It is the closest depiction of how I feel that I have ever seen.  The original post can be found here:  http://chastityknight.tumblr.com/post/158736826186/yournewkeyholder-this-is-why-a-sub-needs-a-domme  

21. Reluctant Dominance

I will warn that I'm writing a bit with the armor on right now after getting a bordering-on-hostile delayed response to some comments I made a week ago. I'm trying to steer the ship away from Rantville.  My apologies if we end up in Shittsburgh. I am sympathetic towards Dommes that find themselves in the …

14. A quick D/s fantasy: Breakfast

Author's notes: So here's a little fiction I wrote for someone yesterday to try to illustrate the power of D/s dynamics and how they can turn an ordinary every day activity into something erotic.  I specifically left out any references to the sub's arousal, so as you read feel free to insert them in your …

7. Femdom v. FLR

I have been blogging for quite a long time.  While it hasn't been as long as some, seven years and 800+ posts later I have seen several waves of bloggers cycle in and out and watched the landscape change a bit.  I took a break for a couple of years and when I returned I …