462. Thoughts on Appearances

One of the more individual views that people in D/s have is how the dynamics of their relationship appear to outsiders.  Some have a group of kink-aware friends they keep separate from their vanilla friends.  Some have a few trusted confidants they share their lifestyle with.  Some keep it a secret from everyone. In my … Continue reading 462. Thoughts on Appearances

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461. Thoughts on Environmental D/s

Something that I crave is the existence of dynamics that are always on.  While the actual protocols may shift regularly in order to accommodate life, a lot of D/s is about what happens in the mind.  I would say that it is far more common for subs to have desires to feel dominance that exceed … Continue reading 461. Thoughts on Environmental D/s

460. Thoughts on Communication Struggles and Submissive Guilt

The blogosphere is littered with accounts of subs talking about struggling to communicate their needs and desires.  This is especially true when they hit a state of frenzy, and it is often the reason that they reached frenzy in the first place. There are various reasons why people do not communicate what they need.  A … Continue reading 460. Thoughts on Communication Struggles and Submissive Guilt

456. Thoughts on Awareness and Self-Image

It's difficult for me to see myself as desirable.  I know that I have strengths.  I am smart, compassionate, and have a big heart.  I am romantic, empathetic, funny, and loyal.  I am responsible and motivated, competent and decisive.  As a sub, I am dedicated, loving, and willing and versatile enough to be whatever she … Continue reading 456. Thoughts on Awareness and Self-Image

455. Thoughts on views on locks, restraints, etc.

In the past I have written about the differing psychological effects on submission of various methods of restraints.  I have felt that chain can affect someone differently than say, rope or cloth.  I have felt that steel and locks can affect someone differently than the "honor system," velcro, standard buckles, or snap hooks. I've never … Continue reading 455. Thoughts on views on locks, restraints, etc.

453. Do you ever wonder why portrayals of powerful women…

Have you ever noticed that popular portrayals of powerful women never seem to directly lead to an uptick in the number of Dommes?  I find it oddly curious since portrayals of M/f scenarios often contribute heavily to interested in that side of D/s and BDSM, yet things don't seem to flow in the other direction. … Continue reading 453. Do you ever wonder why portrayals of powerful women…