Tag: submission

536. What I am (2019)

Some comments on a couple of recent posts made me realize that it has been a while that I have really talked much at all about my submission and the dynamics that I desire.  There are definitely reasons that I hide parts of myself both while blogging and in my local BDSM community.  I don't … Continue reading 536. What I am (2019)

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530. “A Positive Submissive Response”

Over the past few months I have had quite a few discussions while trying to explain how the mechanics of D/s tend to work in various environments, especially in regards to subs. What I have found is that as a whole, there is very little common understanding of what subs "get out of it" if … Continue reading 530. “A Positive Submissive Response”

528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

Some days I wonder why I keep on blogging.  It's not that I have a reason to stop, it's that I find it harder to have a reason to continue.  In any case... A week ago I took part in a Femdom discussion munch that chose my topic of emotional sadism and masochism.   I had … Continue reading 528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism

523. Thoughts on Feeling Submissive vs. Being Dominated

So I've been writing and scrapping versions of this post for roughly three months now.  I've had a number of conversations about this topic over the past couple of months as well, but I have never been happy enough with the end result to publish it and they ended up on the trash heap.  Here … Continue reading 523. Thoughts on Feeling Submissive vs. Being Dominated

520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude

For the duration of my blogging "career," I have encouraged subs to try to become more service-oriented.  To me, service-oriented submission is to find fulfillment in their submission in the ways that benefit a Domme and provide enhancements to her life and lifestyle. When I first got started as a sub, I was more of … Continue reading 520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude

502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. As this is designed for a Femdom discussion group, it may lean more heavily towards the F/m end of the spectrum although I … Continue reading 502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

494. Explaining “The Assignment”

Sweetgirl's latest post talked about an exercise that I frequently encourage for subs.  It is something that I encouraged her to do early on and it is something that I recommend for subs that are newer or are in relationships and looking to take D/s to the next level.  I thought that it would be … Continue reading 494. Explaining “The Assignment”

491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now.  As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its … Continue reading 491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

489. Thoughts upon me, the submissive

The history of my life has been one where I have never felt desirable nor attractive.  I have always been different.  Different in such a way that the difference would be the characteristic that stood out the most.  Different was bad.  I would have to be twice as good to be considered half as good.  … Continue reading 489. Thoughts upon me, the submissive