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Some comments on a couple of recent posts made me realize that it has been a while that I have really talked much at all about my submission and the dynamics that I desire. There are definitely reasons that I hide parts of myself both while blogging and in my local BDSM community. I don't … Continue reading 536. What I am (2019)
Over the past few months I have had quite a few discussions while trying to explain how the mechanics of D/s tend to work in various environments, especially in regards to subs. What I have found is that as a whole, there is very little common understanding of what subs "get out of it" if … Continue reading 530. “A Positive Submissive Response”
Some days I wonder why I keep on blogging. It's not that I have a reason to stop, it's that I find it harder to have a reason to continue. In any case... A week ago I took part in a Femdom discussion munch that chose my topic of emotional sadism and masochism. I had … Continue reading 528. Thoughts on Submissive Male Shame and Emotional Masochism
So I've been writing and scrapping versions of this post for roughly three months now. I've had a number of conversations about this topic over the past couple of months as well, but I have never been happy enough with the end result to publish it and they ended up on the trash heap. Here … Continue reading 523. Thoughts on Feeling Submissive vs. Being Dominated
For the duration of my blogging "career," I have encouraged subs to try to become more service-oriented. To me, service-oriented submission is to find fulfillment in their submission in the ways that benefit a Domme and provide enhancements to her life and lifestyle. When I first got started as a sub, I was more of … Continue reading 520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude
Her: "You know, all the other subs are jealous of you, right?" Me: "What? Who? What? Jealous of what?" Her: "All of the male subs. They are all jealous of you." Me: "What? Jealous of what?" Her: "That Dommes talk to you and pay attention to what you have to say. I can't believe you … Continue reading 518. Recent Community Experiences
I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. As this is designed for a Femdom discussion group, it may lean more heavily towards the F/m end of the spectrum although I … Continue reading 502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)
Sweetgirl's latest post talked about an exercise that I frequently encourage for subs. It is something that I encouraged her to do early on and it is something that I recommend for subs that are newer or are in relationships and looking to take D/s to the next level. I thought that it would be … Continue reading 494. Explaining “The Assignment”
Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now. As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its … Continue reading 491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun
The history of my life has been one where I have never felt desirable nor attractive. I have always been different. Different in such a way that the difference would be the characteristic that stood out the most. Different was bad. I would have to be twice as good to be considered half as good. … Continue reading 489. Thoughts upon me, the submissive
