Tag: submission

407. Thoughts on D/s Systems vs. People

I have had a draft rattling around for a couple of weeks now in regards to this topic but it wasn't rounding out but I did want to write about it so I am starting it over. There is a line from the novel Exit to Eden that was a recurring quote throughout the story: … Continue reading 407. Thoughts on D/s Systems vs. People


375. Thoughts on “The Big Takeaway”

It was roughly seven years ago that Lady Grey at Woman in Control made a post called "The Big Takeaway."  Unfortunately this post was lost when she deleted a number of her early posts but some conversations that I have had recently with some newer Dommes got me thinking about it once again and I … Continue reading 375. Thoughts on “The Big Takeaway”

374. Submission as a Privilege

In the past week I have had four conversations with different people that seem to all sort of link back to a common theme.  While they were on various topics, the core of the discussion centered around the belief in "submission as a gift" and how that idea fails in a lot of situations.  I … Continue reading 374. Submission as a Privilege

358. Thoughts on my Role/Label

I have stated in previous posts that the term slave in BDSM has really lost a lot of its meaning and is relatively undefinable in the vernacular of the 2018 kinky world.  I have also written about being educated in the "Old Guard" definitions of slave and talked about the seriousness it rings in my … Continue reading 358. Thoughts on my Role/Label

357. Splitting Submissive Mental Spaces

I was asked some questions tonight that forced me to get more specific about submissive mental space than I had in a long time. These might be helpful if you are unfamiliar with this topic: Separating self and spaces How Submissive Mental Space Works Thoughts on Fostering Submissive Mental Space through Dynamics I will be … Continue reading 357. Splitting Submissive Mental Spaces

345. Born from Denial?

I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating.  She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens.  I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that.  BDSM was presented in a … Continue reading 345. Born from Denial?

338. Thoughts on my inner submissive

My inner submissive is the strongest part of me. Its love is fearless.  Its love is resilient and enduring.  Its love is encompassing and consuming. My inner submissive is the bravest part of me. It shows the truth.  It faces the truth.  It remains steadfast in the face of adversity. I wish that I could … Continue reading 338. Thoughts on my inner submissive

294. Thinking more about Submissive Mental Space

Submissive mental space (or subspace, as I prefer to refer to it), is one of my favorite topics to discuss.  I believe that it serves such an integral place in submission and the healthy maintenance of a D/s relationship, yet it gets talked about so infrequently as a whole.  I have asked the question of … Continue reading 294. Thinking more about Submissive Mental Space

288. Thoughts on Contexts and Embarrassment

A recent conversation with a blogging friend has made me realize just how obsessed I am with explaining myself.  I find myself constantly unable to share something without needing to link it to all parts involved.  By itself, it is too embarrassing and shameful for me to face.  By itself... out of context... what would … Continue reading 288. Thoughts on Contexts and Embarrassment