494. Explaining “The Assignment”

Sweetgirl's latest post talked about an exercise that I frequently encourage for subs.  It is something that I encouraged her to do early on and it is something that I recommend for subs that are newer or are in relationships and looking to take D/s to the next level.  I thought that it would be …

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491. More submissive mental space and swimming pools fun

Some recent talks have brought me back to thinking about submissive mental space and various other spaces and I wanted to write a little bit more about it now.  As I often do, I will be referring to submissive mental space as "subspace" in an attempt to take back a word that has had its …

489. Thoughts upon me, the submissive

The history of my life has been one where I have never felt desirable nor attractive.  I have always been different.  Different in such a way that the difference would be the characteristic that stood out the most.  Different was bad.  I would have to be twice as good to be considered half as good.  …

480. The Cycle Loop of Feeding Dominance and submission

Lately a topic has come to my attention that I find rather interesting.  I know that this is something I have written about in the past but since it is fresh on my mind I will revisit it. It is common knowledge that subs will undergo cravings.  Unless they are "fed," they will slowly slide …

478. Thoughts on D/s vs. BDSM

I'm not quite sure where this post is going to go, but this is a conversation that has come up a couple of times with both blogging friends and some of the new friends I have made in the local community. Often when I get asked what my interests are in kink communities, my primary …

470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3

Note: This is part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1 469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2 I received some very good comments on Part 2 from a number of other bloggers.  I realized that answering them thoroughly would basically take at least a posts's worth …

469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2

Note: This is part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1 470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3 This is sort of a continuation of my last post.  I had originally planned to combine these topics but I felt they should be split so as not get …

468. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 1

Note: This ended up being part of a series of posts.  Other related posts: 469. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 2 470. Sub, Submissive, and Submission Part 3 I have been having some conversations lately with a number of subs and a couple of topics keep popping up.  This post will include a lot of …

442. Thoughts on Thick Skin

My post on extreme fantasy had me thinking today about why I get bothered by critical responses to certain parts of myself and my submission.  Should I have thicker skin and be able to shrug off negativity? While pondering this question over lunch I realized that the answer is a lot more complicated than I …

407. Thoughts on D/s Systems vs. People

I have had a draft rattling around for a couple of weeks now in regards to this topic but it wasn't rounding out but I did want to write about it so I am starting it over. There is a line from the novel Exit to Eden that was a recurring quote throughout the story: …