Something that I have been struggling with lately is the battle between my two submissive mental spaces. There is my service-side. There is my emotional masochist side. Each of these spaces has a distinctly different feel to them and an entirely separate set of preferences, ideals, and philosophies that govern them. My service side wants … Continue reading 551. Failing to Balance the Two Spaces
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540. Today’s Thoughts on Service Submission
So I am attending a Femdom discussion munch tonight on service. I've written a lot about this in the past and at some point I may do a write-up/Guide, but for now, I just wanted to write something brief-ish to gather my thoughts for the discussion tonight. In BDSM communities, service submission often falls through … Continue reading 540. Today’s Thoughts on Service Submission
520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude
For the duration of my blogging "career," I have encouraged subs to try to become more service-oriented. To me, service-oriented submission is to find fulfillment in their submission in the ways that benefit a Domme and provide enhancements to her life and lifestyle. When I first got started as a sub, I was more of … Continue reading 520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude
494. Explaining “The Assignment”
Sweetgirl's latest post talked about an exercise that I frequently encourage for subs. It is something that I encouraged her to do early on and it is something that I recommend for subs that are newer or are in relationships and looking to take D/s to the next level. I thought that it would be … Continue reading 494. Explaining “The Assignment”
492. Service Term Creation: Compelled Service
I was reflecting upon a few conversations I have had recently that brought me to write the post 487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean and I had a couple of thoughts regarding how we communicate about service. I do hope some of these terms manage to catch on. I came … Continue reading 492. Service Term Creation: Compelled Service
487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean
Welcome to attempt #11 at finishing this post. I have been helping and mentoring some newer Dommes again and taking part in some local discussion groups and the topic of service has come up quite a bit. Well, sort of. Most of the time the topic revolves around service and how one party's definition of … Continue reading 487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean
213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space
EDIT: So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day. Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made. My apologies if either of them came off that way, my … Continue reading 213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space
182. Thoughts on Idealism vs. Reality
It took me years to craft a set of submissive ideals that represented the type of sub that I wanted to be and was capable of providing the lifestyle that I could both promise and deliver upon. It took me another couple of years to condition and adapt myself mentally to not only be content … Continue reading 182. Thoughts on Idealism vs. Reality
176. Thoughts on Domestic Service
There are times when I wish I was one of those people that was a neat freak. You know, those types that get off on making everything clean and organized. I am not one of those people. I'm not dirty or filthy, but I'm more about not making a mess than I am about cleaning. … Continue reading 176. Thoughts on Domestic Service
110. Domestic Service: Adulting for Two
Yesterday's post on An Expectation of Service was inspired by a conversation with a Domme friend and it got a bit twisted up as I ended up covering why I recommend every single sub to be willing to perform domestic service as well as the way that I fetishize it in my own head. I … Continue reading 110. Domestic Service: Adulting for Two