Tag: domestic service

540. Today’s Thoughts on Service Submission

So I am attending a Femdom discussion munch tonight on service.  I've written a lot about this in the past and at some point I may do a write-up/Guide, but for now, I just wanted to write something brief-ish to gather my thoughts for the discussion tonight. In BDSM communities, service submission often falls through … Continue reading 540. Today’s Thoughts on Service Submission

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520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude

For the duration of my blogging "career," I have encouraged subs to try to become more service-oriented.  To me, service-oriented submission is to find fulfillment in their submission in the ways that benefit a Domme and provide enhancements to her life and lifestyle. When I first got started as a sub, I was more of … Continue reading 520. Thoughts on Service and Servitude

494. Explaining “The Assignment”

Sweetgirl's latest post talked about an exercise that I frequently encourage for subs.  It is something that I encouraged her to do early on and it is something that I recommend for subs that are newer or are in relationships and looking to take D/s to the next level.  I thought that it would be … Continue reading 494. Explaining “The Assignment”

492. Service Term Creation: Compelled Service

I was reflecting upon a few conversations I have had recently that brought me to write the post 487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean and I had a couple of thoughts regarding how we communicate about service.  I do hope some of these terms manage to catch on. I came … Continue reading 492. Service Term Creation: Compelled Service

487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean

Welcome to attempt #11 at finishing this post. I have been helping and mentoring some newer Dommes again and taking part in some local discussion groups and the topic of service has come up quite a bit.  Well, sort of.  Most of the time the topic revolves around service and how one party's definition of … Continue reading 487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean

213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space

EDIT:  So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made.  My apologies if either of them came off that way, my … Continue reading 213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space

182. Thoughts on Idealism vs. Reality

It took me years to craft a set of submissive ideals that represented the type of sub that I wanted to be and was capable of providing the lifestyle that I could both promise and deliver upon.  It took me another couple of years to condition and adapt myself mentally to not only be content … Continue reading 182. Thoughts on Idealism vs. Reality

176. Thoughts on Domestic Service

There are times when I wish I was one of those people that was a neat freak.  You know, those types that get off on making everything clean and organized.  I am not one of those people.  I'm not dirty or filthy, but I'm more about not making a mess than I am about cleaning. … Continue reading 176. Thoughts on Domestic Service

110. Domestic Service: Adulting for Two

Yesterday's post on An Expectation of Service was inspired by a conversation with a Domme friend and it got a bit twisted up as I ended up covering why I recommend every single sub to be willing to perform domestic service as well as the way that I fetishize it in my own head.  I … Continue reading 110. Domestic Service: Adulting for Two

109. An Expectation of Service

I have been thinking a lot about the D/s lifestyle lately and after giving a couple of subs some advice on how to attract a Dominant woman for a long-term relationship and I realize just how far removed I am in my mind from the realm of BDSM relationships where kink is defined and the … Continue reading 109. An Expectation of Service