Tag: domestic service

494. Explaining “The Assignment”

Sweetgirl's latest post talked about an exercise that I frequently encourage for subs.  It is something that I encouraged her to do early on and it is something that I recommend for subs that are newer or are in relationships and looking to take D/s to the next level.  I thought that it would be … Continue reading 494. Explaining “The Assignment”

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492. Service Term Creation: Compelled Service

I was reflecting upon a few conversations I have had recently that brought me to write the post 487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean and I had a couple of thoughts regarding how we communicate about service.  I do hope some of these terms manage to catch on. I came … Continue reading 492. Service Term Creation: Compelled Service

487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean

Welcome to attempt #11 at finishing this post. I have been helping and mentoring some newer Dommes again and taking part in some local discussion groups and the topic of service has come up quite a bit.  Well, sort of.  Most of the time the topic revolves around service and how one party's definition of … Continue reading 487. Service: Thoughts on What they say vs. What they mean

213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space

EDIT:  So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made.  My apologies if either of them came off that way, my … Continue reading 213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space

182. Thoughts on Idealism vs. Reality

It took me years to craft a set of submissive ideals that represented the type of sub that I wanted to be and was capable of providing the lifestyle that I could both promise and deliver upon.  It took me another couple of years to condition and adapt myself mentally to not only be content … Continue reading 182. Thoughts on Idealism vs. Reality

176. Thoughts on Domestic Service

There are times when I wish I was one of those people that was a neat freak.  You know, those types that get off on making everything clean and organized.  I am not one of those people.  I'm not dirty or filthy, but I'm more about not making a mess than I am about cleaning. … Continue reading 176. Thoughts on Domestic Service

110. Domestic Service: Adulting for Two

Yesterday's post on An Expectation of Service was inspired by a conversation with a Domme friend and it got a bit twisted up as I ended up covering why I recommend every single sub to be willing to perform domestic service as well as the way that I fetishize it in my own head.  I … Continue reading 110. Domestic Service: Adulting for Two

109. An Expectation of Service

I have been thinking a lot about the D/s lifestyle lately and after giving a couple of subs some advice on how to attract a Dominant woman for a long-term relationship and I realize just how far removed I am in my mind from the realm of BDSM relationships where kink is defined and the … Continue reading 109. An Expectation of Service

46. 30 Days of submission: Day 11

Do you include service as a part of your expectations of your submission?  Yes, I find it difficult to picture a lifestyle D/s relationship without it. How do you define service?  I've never tried to define it directly.  What I write next may be inadequate but I will do my best. I would define service … Continue reading 46. 30 Days of submission: Day 11