219. Minor Regrets

It took me about 3 minutes after making my last post to wish that I could undo it and either delete it or tone it down. I try not to project over negativity and I feel like I've been failing that a bit too often lately.  I also try to avoid writing when I "let …

218. Sexism in D/s

Note:  Still writing with a fever, but this is a rant post, so... I don't expect everyone to like me.  Hell, I only expect a fraction of people out there will like me.  I am opinionated and can be confrontational.  I have a somewhat dry, crass, and perverse sense of humor.  I don't go out …

217. I am not immune…

I am not immune to the ache.  While the absence of D/s in my life has forced me to develop a very large number of coping methods, my system is far from perfect.  Self-maintenance, living vicariously through others, and crafting fantasies to satiate my mind help quite a bit, but sometimes it is not enough. …

216. Service-Oriented Submissive Mental Space – The Other Side

Note: I am still writing with a fever.  I am hoping to remain coherent. In a post from yesterday I talked about how reaching a mindset of service-oriented submission and the calm it yields was a half-truth.  I handled it a bit ham-handedly and I thought it would be good to expand upon that statement.  …

215. Writing with a fever…

So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made. My apologies if either of them came off that way, my brain …

214. When we say, “slow down,” this is what we mean

EDIT:  So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made.  My apologies if either of them came off that way, my …

213. Creating your own service-oriented submissive mental space

EDIT:  So I got sick this weekend and I've had a fever all day.  Apparently writing with a fever makes me sound like an arrogant douche bag... or at least that's my own personal impression of the last post or two that I made.  My apologies if either of them came off that way, my …

212. Thoughts on Conformity

I was reading Leda in Hand yesterday and I was able to get an outlook on the different expectations of conformity in the D/s scene.  In a lot of ways the expectations of conformity differ greatly based upon your role and gender.  It made me think about conversations I have had in the past where …

211. Fetish Control

strokemetillipurr wrote a post on Fetishes today that I found quite lovely.  Actually, it filled me with envy and questions of what if?  It got me thinking about how I feel about my fetishes. The first thing I would say is that if I had a friend like the author back when I was suffering …

210. Temperament and Patience

I have been in contact with a lot of people who struggle with the pace of developing D/s.  These are just some thoughts that might help. "I want more.  I want more, now." This feeling is very common.  Sometimes it comes from a taste.  Usually it comes from a taste and then jumping ahead in …