155. Drawing: Nora’s Halloween Costume

Nora is one of my favorite kink bloggers.  Her blog can be found here:  https://ourmarriageanddomesticdiscipline.wordpress.com/ A recurring joke that we have is in regards to her Halloween costume, which started out in the comments of one of her blog posts a few months ago and has carried on from there.  On my last post about …

154. The Parts I Keep Hidden (on WordPress)

The other night I did some searches via search engines to try and locate more blogs.  In addition to WP, I also have Tumblr and Blogger blogs.  I started my Blogger blog back in 2010 and just recently hit my 1000th post.  The Tumblr blog is something I started when I relaunched the current URL …

153. Why I give up control follow up: my father and examples of relationships

I received some comments from Mrs Fever on my post Why I give up control in regards to my adopted father's role in his marriage to my adopted mother. My adopted father was a very emotionally repressed person.  He was raised in a small sect of an Old Testament-based puritanical religion.  For those who aren't …

152. Thoughts on contrarianism in D/s

I'm sure that almost everyone has encountered at least one person in their lives that exhibits contrary or defiant behavior or thought processes. They don't want to do something until they are told not to. They don't want something until they are told they can't have it. If something is established as popular belief they …

151. Why I give up control

I believe for many, the most difficult aspect of D/s is the act of truly giving up control. Many activities in the lifestyle feel quite momentary. You have a task, you complete it, done. You play or have kinky sex, you complete it, done. While there may be rules out there, in many cases following …

150. Evolving the submissive self

Being a submissive in the D/s lifestyle is one of the few times where a person constantly evolves under the guidance of a true merit-based system. Certain behaviors are encouraged while others are discouraged. Over time we find ourselves shaped into the image that the Domme desires. At each plateau, repetition helps polish our skills …

149. Random Thoughts on flavors of D/s

One of the biggest fundamental differences in the way that people view a BDSM-oriented kink lifestyle is related to how encompassing the dynamics fall into every day life. Basically, does power exchange occur only during defined periods or is it on all the time? For some, D/s is roleplay engaged in between consenting individuals for …

148. Random thoughts on arousal

Something I have struggled with greatly over the years has been coming to terms with what arouses me. By struggled, I mean, I have never come to terms with it. In my youth it was the cycle of masturbation followed by shame followed by denial that would just loop over and over again. As much …

147. Compromises

Note: This is written from the standpoint of those interested in a 24-7 lifestyle Femdom or FLR type relationship and will not pertain as much to those seeking a more casual BDSM-oriented relationship. In the majority of the advice I write geared at single subs attempting to court a Domme, I generally preach to be …

146. Status and Stations

I recently read some comments on a different blog that I wanted to respond to but left that for the author.  I do not feel safe speaking for others but with enough information I can sometimes do pretty well at guessing on their thought process.  Having followed well over a hundred blogs for years and …