467. Q&A from Porn Girl

Porn Girl was kind enough to ask me some questions in the comments of my last post.  Here goes. 1) When was the last time you “made love”, if ever? Sometime in the fall of 2012.  It was before T had hip surgery.  We were intimate one more time after that where she gave me …

466. A Personal Update and A Request

I know that I haven't posted much lately.  Things are going pretty well.  Most of what I blog about is inspired by conversations and interactions with others.  I had a lull of that for a few weeks and so there really wasn't a lot on my mind to write about.  After about three weeks of …

465. Thoughts on the Darkness in male subs

I have had the pleasure of interacting with some very new Dommes and switches this past week and this topic has popped up a couple of times so I thought it would be good to blog about it.  Some of this will be rehash of earlier posts but I am trying to combine the concepts …

464. There’s a First Time for Everything (2018)

I try to be even-keeled in my presence on the blogosphere.  While I will rant now and then and express frustration, I generally don't get into beef in blog comments. Over the years I've been insulted or criticized countless times.  I have always found some way to either try to tactfully defuse the situation or …

463. My Understanding of Domspace and Dominant Mental Space

For those of you who have been reading for a while, you may remember that when I was writing my fs02 erotica I went through a process to try to understand how things work within the mind of a sadist.  Since then, I have evolved my theory based upon discussions with dominants and wanted to …

462. Thoughts on Appearances

One of the more individual views that people in D/s have is how the dynamics of their relationship appear to outsiders.  Some have a group of kink-aware friends they keep separate from their vanilla friends.  Some have a few trusted confidants they share their lifestyle with.  Some keep it a secret from everyone. In my …

461. Thoughts on Environmental D/s

Something that I crave is the existence of dynamics that are always on.  While the actual protocols may shift regularly in order to accommodate life, a lot of D/s is about what happens in the mind.  I would say that it is far more common for subs to have desires to feel dominance that exceed …

460. Thoughts on Communication Struggles and Submissive Guilt

The blogosphere is littered with accounts of subs talking about struggling to communicate their needs and desires.  This is especially true when they hit a state of frenzy, and it is often the reason that they reached frenzy in the first place. There are various reasons why people do not communicate what they need.  A …

459. Thoughts on What is Romantic in D/s

If it ever seems like I speak out against a lot of ideas, it is probably because they often inspire me to write.  I get interested in points of view that differ from mine.  When a point of view differs, I want to understand it and figure out where it came from, how they got …

458. Thoughts on Jaded vs. Soured

Every gender and role has its its own set of obstacles to contend with.  Generally when I write about those topics I tend to focus on how things are and the process of getting there.  While everyone has their own set of ideas on what things would be like in a perfect world, the pragmatic …