530. “A Positive Submissive Response”

Over the past few months I have had quite a few discussions while trying to explain how the mechanics of D/s tend to work in various environments, especially in regards to subs. What I have found is that as a whole, there is very little common understanding of what subs "get out of it" if …

523. Thoughts on Feeling Submissive vs. Being Dominated

So I've been writing and scrapping versions of this post for roughly three months now.  I've had a number of conversations about this topic over the past couple of months as well, but I have never been happy enough with the end result to publish it and they ended up on the trash heap.  Here …

502. Discussion Topic Write-Up: Mental Spaces in BDSM v. 1.0 (12/20/2018)

I am writing this from the standpoint of introducing these ideas and concepts as part of a discussion group and may include ideas and concepts that I have discussed in earlier posts. As this is designed for a Femdom discussion group, it may lean more heavily towards the F/m end of the spectrum although I …

480. The Cycle Loop of Feeding Dominance and submission

Lately a topic has come to my attention that I find rather interesting.  I know that this is something I have written about in the past but since it is fresh on my mind I will revisit it. It is common knowledge that subs will undergo cravings.  Unless they are "fed," they will slowly slide …

463. My Understanding of Domspace and Dominant Mental Space

For those of you who have been reading for a while, you may remember that when I was writing my fs02 erotica I went through a process to try to understand how things work within the mind of a sadist.  Since then, I have evolved my theory based upon discussions with dominants and wanted to …

384. Evolving Entitlement: Dismissive Attitude

I know that this is a repeat topic for me, but a number of Dommes I know have been blogging over entitlement in the past week and I thought it would be a good time to write about this again as it sort of follows suit.  I find entitlement absolutely fascinating because it is not …

375. Thoughts on “The Big Takeaway”

It was roughly seven years ago that Lady Grey at Woman in Control made a post called "The Big Takeaway."  Unfortunately this post was lost when she deleted a number of her early posts but some conversations that I have had recently with some newer Dommes got me thinking about it once again and I …

352. Dominate PSA 2018 Edition

So... I got invited to a kik group and after 5 days I feel the need to make another public service announcement. Dominate.  Verb.  Def: have a commanding influence on; exercise control over. Example Usage: I dominate.  She dominated.  They will dominate. Corresponding Adjective: Dominant Corresponding Noun: Dominance Corresponding Substantive Noun/Pronoun(s): Dominant, Dom, Domme I don't …

345. Born from Denial?

I have a friend that I met on kik a while back that I think is absolutely fascinating.  She is 2nd generation BDSM and was indoctrinated into the principles of the lifestyle in her mid-teens.  I don't plan on getting into any sort of moral debate or commentary about that.  BDSM was presented in a …

286. She Has the Power to Create and Reshape Reality

My last two posts, A Pragmatic View from a single male submissive and Small Doubts seem to have gotten a bit of discussion going both in comments and via private contact.  A couple of discussions today found me wanting to elaborate more upon this and how it affects things in the D/s world in general. …