Month: January 2018

317. The Paradox of the Slave Mindset

While I have written about how the term "slave" in BDSM has lost a lot of its definition over the years, some recent conversations on the topic of M/s have led me to some thoughts upon the subject.  Without trying to get too heavily into definitions separating what is a submissive and what is a … Continue reading 317. The Paradox of the Slave Mindset


316. Fetish as a Weapon

I've never viewed my fetishes as a means of getting off.  I've always seen them as a means to enslave me. I never wanted to have them.  The guilt and shame that helped birth desires into fetishes created self-inflicted wounds.  I can never be "normal" ever again.  I live with the deep, dark secret that … Continue reading 316. Fetish as a Weapon

315. Selective Validation

I have no problem accepting myself as a submissive.  I don't really have any trouble accepting myself as a submissive male in a society that largely shuns them.  That being said, it is easy to rail against society as a whole.  It's easy to rally against prejudice and hate when when it's a crowd roaring … Continue reading 315. Selective Validation

314. Thoughts on the crap that goes along with F/m D/s dating

As I have rambled about more than people probably care to hear, creating the personality of a Domme for my fiction has actually yielded some rather disturbing results.  I find writing stories to be a very emotionally immersive experience for me and I feel like a lot of what I do is run simulations of … Continue reading 314. Thoughts on the crap that goes along with F/m D/s dating

313. Consensual Supremacy

After some comment exchanges with The Secret Aspie on my yesterday's post about female supremacy, I thought it was worth revisiting. That is such a difficult topic for me to tackle objectively because my rational side and the knowledge of the preferences of... well... most of the Dommes that I know tends to keep me … Continue reading 313. Consensual Supremacy

311. Thoughts on Female Supremacy (2018 version)

I know this is something that I have written on in the past but it is something that I have talked with SG about lately and it came up again in comments. I find the concept of female supremacy (or female superiority) to be quite fascinating.  It is the ultimate role-reversal that bucks the historical … Continue reading 311. Thoughts on Female Supremacy (2018 version)

310. Writing about Having Nothing to Write About

Because I'm lame like that... In between being absorbed by writing fiction, having my mood crash, and there being a bit of a lull going on in Blogville when it comes to the topics I normally sink my teeth into, I haven't had much on my mind to write about here. Often it just takes … Continue reading 310. Writing about Having Nothing to Write About

309. Why sadists fascinate me

Working on the third arc of fs02 has reminded me of something.  I am absolutely fascinated by sadistic women.  It's not that sadism fascinates me, I accept that it exists along with masochism. What intrigues me are the people that acknowledge that they are sadists.  I'm probably going to struggle expressing the root of this … Continue reading 309. Why sadists fascinate me

308. Reflections on D/s Blogging

I've been blogging for a long time now about D/s, starting my first blog over at blogger back in March of 2010.  I was fortunate enough to have come in during a very good blogging generation. I use the term blogging generation for a cycle of similarly themed bloggers that find each other and interact … Continue reading 308. Reflections on D/s Blogging